"I always say to women who are trying to do everything, 'Of course you can do it all, but it is going to be difficult.'  My mother did it and I do it, just not in a conventional way, which is to say I got a messy divorce and all the rest of it, but I had a husband I loved, children I loved and a job I loved simultaneously.  Just undertsand that sometimes you're going to think, 'I'm losing my mind'"